Which way

I think it’s safe to say that we’ve all been in situations where we can feel ourselves leaning toward one decision vs. another, where we’re at a tipping point of sorts. It’s a moment when a million questions are circulating through our minds at a mile a minute.

Do I go for it? Do I hold back?
Do I stay in the safe zone or jump and take a risk?

The questions don’t stop. You can’t silence them because you’re so torn over what to do.

Which direction is best?
Which provides happiness and clarity?
Which provides comfort and stability?

I’ve found that a lot of people claim there’s a distinctive moment when you know which way to go… a moment when you know what to do.

But I don’t necessarily believe that’s true.

I think it’s actually a compilation of multiple moments that add up over time until there are too many to ignore.

I think it takes so many steps in one particular direction in order to realize that maybe you’re closer to “knowing” than you thought.

It takes quite a bit of time to realize that maybe the next course of action isn’t necessarily a major leap of faith, but just another step in the direction you’ve been heading in all along.

So maybe if you’re stuck and unsure of what that next move should be, the best thing to do is to simply look at what steps you’ve already taken. I bet you’ll be surprised that in the bottom of your heart and the pit of your gut, the answer has been waiting for you all this time.

Let love in

In the popular sitcom Sex & the City, there’s an episode centered around when Carrie says, “don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.” And as I walked from the train and into work today, that one liner was repeating itself over and over in my head.

For those of you who really know me, and maybe even those who don’t, i’m a very confident young woman. I’m proud of who I am, what I stand for, and am so grateful for the people in my life who helped get me here. In a nutshell: i fell in love with myself a long time ago, and I have no intention of that ever changing.

However, the question that popped into my head was, “and then what?”

Despite the inevitable continued growth and change that life brings, what happens after you fall in love with yourself and are happy with the person you are?

Then what?

Maybe the answer to this one really is as obvious as it sounds. Maybe the next logical step really is this: let someone else enter your life who can love you just as much as you love yourself.

Maybe that’s it. Maybe that’s next.

Let love in.