Over the last year or so, I’ve been working with an incredible mindset coach. After working with a therapist on and off for over a decade, I wanted something similar to therapy, but with a stronger focus on the future and how I can live as my most authentic self. Therapy can offer those things too, but I needed to change it up.
While working with my mindset coach, I found myself eager to create more space in my life. It’s like my mind, body and soul were so full all of the time.
There would be times I would need to just sit down and cry. And the best way I’ve ever been able to describe it is that I just felt too full, and the only way I could make more room was to physically release tears from my body and empty out a bit.
And while that feels cathartic and helpful, I didn’t really want crying to be my only solution 😉
So I started to look at how else I could proactively make space.
I started to slow down so I could take a hard look at why everything felt so full.
I started getting to the root of it.
I started asking myself questions.
How was I spending my days? Not just in terms of time, but in terms of energy. Was I spending more time on things than I really needed to? Was I giving too much of my energy to areas that didn’t really value it? Where was I putting my focus? What was I letting reel me in? What did I enjoy? What did I do begrudgingly?
I started to get really curious. And my mindset coach helped guide me through these curiosities so that it was done in a positive, constructive way.
Here’s what I’ve learned so far:
- My grief deserves to be honored and felt, but it does not deserve to linger. Minimizing this creates space for so many other positive, happy emotions.
- You can love something and be good at it and still want space from it.
- Joy should always ride shotgun in the front seat.
- You can take things seriously and still be lighthearted.
- Treat others with respect, but put yourself first. You deserve to take up space.
It’s crazy how creating more space has not made me feel empty.
This space is just a conduit for better things to come in.
Because I actually still feel full, but in new ways.
Full of peace. Full of hope. Full of gratitude.
So I encourage you to pause and ask yourself, could you benefit from creating more space?
til next time